August 2015 Newsletter

Laura K. Meier
Creating estate, business, and life plans that ensure a family’s complete protection and well-being.
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8/6/15 - What Motivates Young Donors Presentation conducted by Joshua and Laura Meier at the Planned Giving Round Table of Orange County (Private Event)
 
8/13/15 - Estate Planning Essentials at the City of Seal Beach
 
9/24/15 - Kids Guardian Workshop at Marguerite Christian Preschool
 
10/28/15 - Kids Guardian Workshop at Temple Beth El Preschool
 
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About Joshua and Laura Meier
 
 
Joshua and Laura Meier are top California family trust attorneys and the parents of four young children. Their law practice is dedicated to guiding families.
 
Laura is the author of the highly-acclaimed book, Good Parents Worry, Great Parents Plan. Josh and Laura conduct the popular Kids Guardian Workshop throughout Southern California and have been featured on NBC, ABC, CBS, FOX, WORTH, OC Metro, ParentingOC, and more.
 
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"Praise for Meier Law Firm. We had a wonderful experience working with the Meier Law Firm on our family trust. Laura is incredibly warm and knowledgeable which are two very important qualities when you are putting together a family trust. You need to have someone who knows what they are talking about while still showing compassion and sensitivity for such a delicate topic."—Anonymous Client of Meier Law Firm. AVVO online review.
 
 
 
Personal Note From Josh and Laura
 
 
Laura, Nana, and Mom
 
Dear Laura,
 
We hope you are 'surviving' summer! While we are enjoying this extra time with the kids, we are also wondering how year round school works and why our kids don't have it. Haha.
 
We had so much fun visiting Laura's alma mater—California State University Long Beach.  We spoke through the CSULB Planned Giving Department to all of the parents at Camp Nugget, which is an awesome summer camp for children with disabilities. The best part was getting a personal tour of the camp and getting to see all of the kids having a blast. It was also fun seeing the old soccer field Laura used to play on back in the day.

 

This week's quick-step is on how complaining is actually helpful to a relationship. Laura says she is happy to finally see a quick-step she has already mastered and regularly implemented.

 
All the best,
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Weekly Quick-Step For the Prosperous Family

 

Quick Step: Four Ways Complaining, Nagging and Pouting Can Actually Help Your Relationship

 

What it is: Four simple tips from relationship expert and wife, Robyn D’Angelo, on how complaining within your relationship can actually enhance your connection with your spouse. Married Folks – This is for you!!

 

Why You Need This: Every interaction with our partners provides an opportunity to connect with or distance from them. How you choose to respond to their complaining, nagging or pouting can predict the outcome of the interaction. The next time you and your partner seem to be getting close to conflict, ask yourself “Do I want to be right or do I want to be happy?” and see how that impacts how you decide to respond to them.

 

Estimated Time: 2-3 times per day, that’s it!

 

How to do it: Read below, carve out 10 min a day to practice with your partner, and watch the magic happen.

 

1. Complaining = Connection.

Every time your partner (or you) complains, know that beneath that complaint is a need that is not being met. We complain when we’re trying to connect with our partners to help us with something. Help us to get something done, help us to feel supported, help us to understand something, or help us to simply feel like we can vent without someone having to fix something. Next time your partner complains, take a moment and think to yourself – what are they really trying to tell me right now? What is it that they need? And then CHOOSE between being right or being happy.

 

2. Maintain Mutual Respect.

Avoiding what Dr. Gottman refers to as the 4 Horseman of the Apocalypse helps cultivate respect between you and your partner. The 4 Horseman of the Apocalypse consists of criticism, defensiveness, contempt and stonewalling or ignoring our partners. If you can avoid doing these when your partner complains, your relationship will start to increase in closeness and conflict will not feel so heavy.

 

3. Check in.

Sometimes just taking a deep breath to pause and ask your partner “What’s really going on right now? Are my socks on the bathroom floor really what’s bothering you?” Your empathic checking in, provides a fantastic opportunity for the two of you to lovingly come together and discuss your partner’s true unmet need. (Which may be more like “I feel that my hard work to keep the bathroom clean goes unappreciated when socks are left on the floor.”)

 

4.  Offer Support.

In every instance of conflict or potential conflict (i.e. complaining, nagging or pouting) there’s an opportunity to step outside your urge to get defensive, contemptuous, criticize or plain ignore your partner. In order to do this, gently and lovingly ask “What do you need right now?” This is different from “What can I do? Or How can I fix things?” When offering your partner this support, it creates an environment of emotional safety where they can start to open up and talk about their unmet need that lives just beneath their complaint. This simple question also releases you of the pressure to fix things. Win-Win!

 

Experiencing complaining is never enjoyable but it can definitely provide a moment for the two of you to deeply connect and address what’s truly going on so that you and your partner feel heard and understood.

 

The 4 steps are simple but they are not easy. This kind of behavior takes commitment to practicing and being gentle with yourself (and your partner) when it doesn’t always go as you expected.

 

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Featured Article
Greatest Wealth Transfer in History Underway—What's Your Plan?
 

A new study from the Boston College Center on Wealth and Philanthropy shows that the greatest wealth transfer in history is currently underway, with more than $59 trillion passing to heirs, charities and Uncle Sam between now and 2061.

 

The majority of this wealth — $36 trillion — is being passed directly to heirs and another sizeable chunk — $27 trillion – will be passed to charity, either through final estate bequest or total lifetime gifts.

 

And even though the study notes that the transfer of $59 trillion is the largest in history, it estimates that the final figure will likely be much higher than that.

 

So what is your plan for either transferring or receiving inherited wealth?

 

Click here to read more.

 
Thank You
 

Thank you so much to Candace M. Huie, Leann Kaufman, Darla Serrano, Kate King, Jennifer Owens, Matt Silver, Trish Levine, Derrick Hazely, Robyn Frick, Ana Gomez, Jeremy Rose, Steve Prettyman, and Jacqueline Zweig for your referrals.

 

Thank you also to California State University Long Beach, the City of Seal Beach, and Berkshire Hathaway Home Services California Properties, for hosting our estate planning workshops