February 2017 Newsletter

Laura K. Meier
Creating estate, business, and life plans that ensure a family’s complete protection and well-being.
 Did you Know?
 
Did you know that Meier Law Firm not only helps people set up their estate plans, but we also have a full probate and trust administration practice to support and represent families and individuals after a loved one has passed away? Call Bonnie Johnson at (949) 718-0420 to learn more.
 
Upcoming Workshops
 

Estate Planning 101
Orange Coast College

 

February 28, 2017 | 10am-12pm

Orange Coast College Student Lounge

Six Essential Trust and Estate Planning Strategies
The Regency, SRG Senior Living

 

February 28, 2017 | 2pm-4pm

24441 Calle Sonora, Laguna Woods, CA 92637

 

Kids Guardian Workshop
Northwestern Mutual

 

March 2, 2017 | 5pm-7pm

Location TBA

Kids Guardian Workshop
The Center for Autism & Neurodevelopmental Disorders

 

March 7, 2017  | 6pm-8pm
2500 Red Hill Avenue, Suite 100, Santa Ana, CA 92705

 

10 Legal Protections For Children With Special Needs
The Center for Autism & Neurodevelopmental Disorders

 

March 7, 2017  | 6pm-8pm
2500 Red Hill Avenue, Suite 100, Santa Ana, CA 92705​

Kids Guardian Workshop
Good Shepherd Lutheran Church

March 23, 2017 | 6pm-8pm

4800 Irvine Center Drive, Irvine CA

 

REGISTER FOR A WORKSHOP AT MEIEREVENTS.COM OR CALL BONNIE AT 949-718-0420.

 
 
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Joshua and Laura Meier are top California family trust attorneys and the parents of four young children. Their Newport Beach estate planning law firm is dedicated to guiding families.
 
Laura is the author of the #1 best-seller, Good Parents Worry, Great Parents Plan. Josh and Laura conduct estate planning workshops throughout Southern California and have been featured on NBC, ABC, CBS, FOX, WORTH, OC Metro, ParentingOC, and more.
 
Click here to read more about Josh and Laura.
 
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We want to sincerely thank you for your online reviews!
 

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Personal Note From Josh and Laura
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Dear Bonnie,
 
We hope this email finds you well. As you can see from the photo above, that's the Nation's Capitol behind us.  I was going to say we took Conrad to Washington D.C., but really I think it was more like he took us.  We just had to fund the trip LOL.  We had a great time experiencing history, both past and present, but were very happy to return to relaxed California where the only thing we seem to really panic about is rainstorms. You can see more fun pictures of our trip on our Meier Law Firm instagram page.
 
Since Valentine's Day is right around the corner, this week's quick step and the blog post both share ways to have happier relationships and keep them on track.  Bonnie was telling me that she writes messages on hearts about what she loves about her kids, and then sticks the hearts on her kids' bedroom doors each day leading up to V day. I think I'll try that this year with my kiddos.
 
Also wanted to let you know we have a lot of great upcoming workshops so if you want to bring a family member or friend to an event, just give Bonnie a call at 949-718-0420 and she can help you get scheduled.  It is always great to see you!
 
All the Best,
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Weekly Quick-Step For the Prosperous Family

 

Quick-Step:  8 Things People In The Happiest Marriages ALWAYS Do

 

What It Is: Ways to build the happiest marriage possible for you and your partner.

 

Why we need this: Moshe Ratson, Licensed Marriage Family Therapist and infidelity expert, says you may think that marriages can thrive on love alone. You would be surprised to know that it takes much more than just love to make a marriage work. Successful, happy marriages are the result of well-earned trust, friendship, communication, and, of course, compromise. The most successful marriages are those in which two people make a conscious effort to build their life together.

 

Estimated time: Daily

 

How to do it:  

 

1. Accept your partner. The first step to take towards an amazing marriage is learning to accept your partner with the good and the less good. Remember that it is different when you are dating and only seeing someone once a week and therefore always having a good time. Marrying the person you love means you will be with them all the time and you will be exposed to their every habit. When you live with each other, you have to accept each other in totality. Your partner WILL have habits that will annoy you.Learn to accept their flaws as you would expect them to accept your own.

 

 

 

2. Appreciate what you have. Don't let the huge mansions of others make you lose appreciation for your love-filled shack. You must take care not to compare your life with the lives of other people or your marriage with other people's marriages. Be grateful for what you have, recognize the value of your own partner, and know that and every couple has their own set of challenges, difficulties, and hardships.

 

 

3. Support your partner on their journey. While marriage is about co-creation, shared visions, activities, and interests, it is important for each partner to take time for themselves as well as they move through life. Developing individual paths to fulfillment is important and requires that you support your spouse in all endeavors and respect each other’s choices.

 

 

4. Focus on growing and changing yourself. If you want to grow as a couple, you need to grow and change as individuals. Make sure that you are the kind of person who is adaptable to change. Focus on changing yourself rather than on changing your partner. Learn to become the best partner you can be, as it will make you a better and happier person overall.

 

 

5. Find happiness within. For a marriage to be successful, each person needs to find happiness within themselves and feel content with what each has. Marriage isn't only about the luxury items you own and the holidays you take together. It's about how happy you make yourself day in and day out, as well as what you each do to make the other happy. How will you make someone happy if you don’t act in a way that reflects joy? 

 

 

6. Be passionate. Passion is the presence of powerful positive emotions and energy. It is an underlying sense of excitement, enthusiasm, and joyfulness. What is a marriage without passion? Make sure that you express your love, feelings, and desires towards your partner. Like you, your spouse needs your passion and love. Your partner needs to feel attractive and be appreciated. Let your partner know how passionate you are about them and how being with them brings out the best in you.

 

 

7. Have fun and laugh. An important ingredient of any happy marriage is the experiencing fun and laughing together. Laughter is contagious and brings positive energy, along with stress and conflict relief. Be silly with each other and laugh like you did when you were kids. Remember that marriage is about pleasurable companionship. In order to keep the spark alive, you need to spend quality time filled with a sense of humor, enjoyment of each other, and an easy-going attitude towards your spouse.

 

 

8. Build shared interests. You and your spouse are two different individuals with different preferences, tests, and choices. You may like football and your spouse may like reading a novel. You two may not be alike, but you can build shared interests and values from which you can create shared dreams with one another. Do things your partner loves to do and ask your partner to do things you love. Strive to build common interests and you will see how wonderfully it helps your relationship bond and grow.  

 

 

Click here for article. Moshe Ratson is complete author of this article, and a Licensed Marriage Family Therapist and infidelity expert in New York City.  

 
Featured Article

5 Things You Can Do To Stay Out of Court

Authored By Haleh Rashidi, Family Law Attorney and Mediator

 
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The other day I had a consultation with a new client and not once, not twice, but three different times during the consult she mentioned that she had wished she could have foreseen that she and her husband would be separating and heading towards divorce. She repeatedly said she would do so many things differently if she had any inclination this could happen to her. This got me thinking; no one can truly foresee the future and for the most part we do not have control over many things that happen in life (i.e. death, divorce, illness).  But instead of dwelling on the things we cannot control we mortal beings must do everything in our power to minimize the issues that could arise from unexpected events.  There are various ways that a family can minimize the risks of battling their family members in court.

 

Here are the top 5 things you and your family can do to stay out of the court:

 

 

1) SECURE AN ESTATE PLAN. Make sure you have a good and secure estate plan in place with someone that you are in contact with often and is there to ensure your estate plan is up-to-date with your changing life.  Having a good estate plan will ensure there is no family members dragging one another to court in order to battle over an estate (or more importantly guardianship of children and access to their funds!) since it will be written-out and secure well before any deaths occur.

 

 

2) COMMUNICATION OF EXPECTATIONS. Open communication with family members is about what your expectations are before a marriage, during the marriage, and before any deaths occur.  It is much better to speak to your family members and get a pre-nup or a post-nup in place than battling your expectations in court or not having an estate plan in place and then realizing your expectations after your family members’ death will not be met. 

 

 

3) COUNSELING. This is not taboo but imperative that family members, whether it is married couples, siblings or parent and children, seek counseling. When communication is broken and cannot be repaired without professional help, counseling may be the only solution. This is one area where cultural taboos against counseling are hard to overcome (“I am not going to counseling… you are crazy!”). But those are the same cultures where it is easy to see when the familial norms have broken-down (the daily get-togethers become weekly, then monthly, then ….).

 

 

4) LAWYER ASSISTED MEDIATION/FAMILY LAW ATTORNEY. We all want the fairytale lives but in reality couples do separate and do get divorced sometimes even after exhausting their attempts at counseling.  Hiring a good family law attorney or a mediator can save you a ton of money and headache.  Lawyer-assisted mediation is using a non-adversarial neutral family law attorney to sit down with both husband and wife and resolve family disputes and help in creating settlement.  If you or your spouse have specific disputes when divorcing (i.e. spousal support/alimony, child support, child custody, or division of assets) that cannot be resolved with mediation then consulting an attorney that is experienced and has your family’s best interest in mind is the way to go.

 

 

5) DOING YOUR HOMEWORK. Last but not least, we should all do our homework and make sure we know what we are getting ourselves into.  This could be whether were dating and thinking of getting married to someone or making a decision about having a child with someone, or in case of death who we want as the guardian for our children.  If we are honest with ourselves from the get-go then we have a better chance at happiness and staying out of court.  

 

Read full article on our blog. 

Spotlight
 
Haleh Rashidi, Esq., Family Law Attorney and Divorce Mediator.
 
Haleh practices in Orange County and Riverside County.  Her career as a family law attorney started in the chambers of the Honorable Elizabeth  Sichel, Riverside County Superior Court Family Law Judge.  Working for Judge Sichel gave her invaluable insight into how judges decide cases and hence how to win a case. Haleh is a graduate of UCLA and Southwestern University School of Law.  Learn more at  www.halehrashidilaw.com
 
Thank You
 

A big shout out to all of you who have left us such wonderful YELP reviews!  We are so happy that you are all happy!

 

Thank you to Vivante on the Coast for hosting our basic estate planning workshop.  If you haven't seen this retirement community, you need to!  it is absolutely stunning.

 

Thank you to ESPN Radio and Ron Siegel for hosting Laura on your show!

 

Thank you to Erin Giglia, Melissa Brooks, Steve and Kassi Wilson, Bridgewater Family, Brett Laddusaw, Julie Schoenbachler, Milan Torres, Armando Gonzales, Eric Elmasry, Lou Duckworth, and Marci Miller, for your referrals.