Quick-Step: The #1 Game Changer in Any Relationship.
What It Is: How to react to our partner's "good news".
Why we need this: We've all heard that partners should be there for each other when the going gets rough. But research shows that being there for each other when things go right is actually more important for relationship quality. How someone responds to a partner's good news can have dramatic consequences for the relationship. Research shows that couples who showed genuine interest in their partner's joys were more likely to stay together according to a study conducted by psychological research Shelly Gable. Couples who reacted is a less than enthusiastic way, including responding while distracted, bringing up their own accomplishments, or questioning whether they could handle whatever the good news entailed, were much less likely to stay together in the long run.
Estimated time: One minute
How to do it: The next time your partner shares good news with you, respond accordingly:
Turn to your partner, and rid any type of distraction, like the game in the background, your cell phone, or the book you are reading.
Enthusiastically receive your spouse's good news. This is not the time to bring up your own good news, or an accomplishment from your past. Don't diminish the good news either by asking them if they can handle the new promotion, etc. This is a moment where you solely focus on your spouse's good news and let them enjoy the moment. You can address the details or obstacles later at the appropriate time.
Once you've stopped what you are doing, and engaged your partner wholeheartedly, respond to the good news by congratulating them with enthusiasm, and asking them what if felt like when they heard the good news, any any exciting details they'd like to share.
Full article written by Father Kerry, Pastor at Our Lady Queen of Angels Church in Newport Beach.
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