A small but growing number of mediators
(people who help resolve disputes, typically outside a courtroom) now
specialize in elder affairs. They help families work through concerns—and
fights—involving caregiving, inheritance, living arrangements, estate planning,
and related issues.
Family arguments have a terrible
way of escalating into something akin to thermal nuclear war. This especially
is the case when the fight is over an elderly loved one, their future, and
A recent article in SmartMoney, titled “When to Call an Elder Mediator,” provides
some helpful guidance for families working through myriad issues regarding an
elderly loved one.
Enter the elder mediator.
An elder mediator essentially
allows the family to come together around the advice of a third party who has
no interests, no psychological baggage, and no need to distrust anyone.
Sometimes you simply can’t say that of other adult siblings or loved ones (or,
if we are honest, of ourselves).
When the end sought by the
family is the well-being of the elderly loved one, an elder mediator can be
essential in helping the family work out solutions while preserving family
(August 28, 2012) “When to Call an Elder Mediator”